Finding the Right Adult To Tell About The Abuse

Sexual Abuse
2. Who to Tell About the Abuse


Finding the Right Adult To Tell About The Abuse

It is important to try to find somebody you TRUST. This will make it easier to talk about what has been happening. This person can be a family member, a friend, a teacher, a doctor, a social worker, a counselor, or just about any adult with whom you feel comfortable.

Sometimes adults do not know what to say when you tell them that you are being sexually abused. They may say the wrong things if they are very upset. They may say that they do not believe you. They may say "why didnt you tell me?" or "why did you let this happen?" They may get very angry.

You should keep in mind that if an adult says the wrong things, or does not say anything at all, this does not mean that you have done anything wrong by telling him or her. It just means that this adult may not be the right person to help you. Try not to be too discouraged— think about whether there is another trustworthy adult that you can tell or give this adult time to calm down. You should always remember that you are telling the truth and that the abuse is wrong and should not be happening to you.